Date: January 7 2015
Published by: The Washington Post
My ex-husband died recently. Mike (not his real name) was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer two weeks before he passed away.
I’m sad he died so young — he was just 50 — but there’s also an emotional distance. We separated more than 12 years ago. Our friends and I watched as Mike’s severe mental illness and refusal to stay on his meds changed him from the person we all knew “before.” He lost friends and family. Only his mother and one childhood friend regularly visited. The rest of us … well, the paranoia and abusive phone calls at 2 a.m. can push away even the most dedicated friend.